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There are many ways in which we come to experience belonging.

We can belong within a family, a friendship, a relationship, a community, a culture or a place. We can feel at home somewhere. We can know that we are wanted. We can experience ourselves as part of something larger than ourselves.

And we can lose these experiences too.

We can be rejected by people we love. We can feel like an outsider within our own family. We can leave the place where we grew up. Relationships can end. Communities can change. We can move countries, lose roles that once gave us a sense of identity, or find ourselves wondering:

Where do I belong now?

These experiences matter profoundly.

But within the Innate Entitlement Framework™ (IEF™), Biological Belonging™ begins somewhere more fundamental.

It begins with being alive.

Biological Belonging™ describes the original inclusion of a particular life within life.

Before belonging becomes something we experience socially or relationally, our life is already occurring within life.

We do not have to be accepted into life after we arrive.

We are already within it.

 

Belonging Begins Before We Know That We Belong

A developing human life does not begin by standing outside life and waiting to be admitted.

From its earliest biological existence, it is already participating in living processes.

Before there is a conscious understanding of:

This is me.

That is you.

This is where I belong.

there is already a particular developing life occurring within life.

This is one reason Biological Belonging™ sits alongside two other original conditions within the developing architecture of IEF™:

Original Unconscious Biological Boundlessness™ (OUBB™) describes our beginning within life before conscious self–other differentiation has emerged.

Innate Entitlement™ describes the original, non-conferred legitimacy of this particular life to exist and inhabit the life that is its own.

And:

Biological Belonging™ describes the original inclusion of this particular life within life.

These are not stages that we have to achieve.

They describe different dimensions of the same original living reality.

In very simple language:

I am this particular life.
My life is mine to inhabit.
And my life is already within life.

 

Belonging Is More Than Being Accepted

When we hear the word belonging, we often think immediately about other people.

Do I belong in my family?

Do I belong in this relationship?

Do I belong in this group?

Do these people want me here?

Those forms of belonging are real and important. Human beings are deeply affected by how we are received and treated by others.

But they are not what IEF™ means by Biological Belonging™.

A family can reject one of its members.

A friendship can end.

A relationship can become unsafe.

A community can exclude somebody.

A person can be made to feel unwanted.

None of this should be minimised. Experiences of rejection, exclusion and abandonment can profoundly affect how somebody experiences themselves, relationships and the world.

But IEF™ makes a distinction between being excluded from a particular relational or social context and the more original condition of being a living life already occurring within life.

A person can genuinely experience:

I don’t belong here.

without that meaning:

My life does not belong within life.

The first may describe a painful relational reality.

The second turns that experience into a conclusion about the inclusion of the person’s life itself.

Biological Belonging™ asks us to distinguish the two.

 

You Can Lose a Place Without Losing Your Place Within Life

Sometimes this distinction becomes clearer when we think about physical place.

You can leave the house in which you grew up.

You can leave your family.

You can cross an ocean.

You can arrive somewhere with little more than a suitcase.

You can lose a relationship, a community, a role or a place you once called home.

Those losses can profoundly affect your experience of belonging.

But while you are alive, you have not stepped outside life.

This distinction became particularly meaningful to me through my own lived experience of migration.

I was born in Brazil. I later left Brazil for London, and eventually moved from London to Wales.

Each movement changed many of the familiar structures through which we usually understand belonging: country, family, culture, relationships, community and place.

There was a period in London when very little of what had previously located me in the world remained around me.

And yet I was still in my life.

I was breathing.

I had a body.

I could feel its weight.

I could see.

I could hear.

I could taste and smell.

I could feel the world around me and experience what was occurring within me.

I had left many places to which I had belonged.

But I had not left life.

That distinction now sits close to the centre of what I mean by Biological Belonging™:

While I am alive, I am within life.

 

Biological Belonging™ Does Not Mean We Belong Everywhere

To say that a person possesses Biological Belonging™ does not mean that everybody belongs in every relationship, family, community, group or physical space.

Human relationships require boundaries.

There are relationships we may need to leave.

There are environments in which we may not be safe.

There are groups of which we are not members.

There are places in which another person’s boundaries must be respected.

Biological Belonging™ therefore does not mean:

I belong everywhere.

Nor does it mean:

Everybody must include me.

It means something more fundamental:

My exclusion from a particular place, relationship or group does not place my life outside life itself.

This distinction allows belonging and differentiation to coexist.

My life can belong within life without belonging to another person.

And your life can belong within life without belonging to me.

 

Biological Belonging™ and Innate Entitlement™

Biological Belonging™ becomes clearer when placed beside Innate Entitlement™.

Innate Entitlement™ says:

My life is legitimately mine to inhabit.

Biological Belonging™ adds:

And the life I inhabit is already within life.

Together they create an important balance.

Innate Entitlement™ protects the particularity of a life.

Biological Belonging™ locates that particular life within something larger than itself.

This means that IEF™ does not understand a human being as an isolated individual whose legitimacy depends entirely upon themselves.

But neither does it understand belonging as requiring the individual to disappear into the collective.

A particular life remains particular while existing within life.

Perhaps the simplest expression is:

I am this particular life. You are yours. And neither of us exists outside life.

Or, even more personally:

My life is mine to inhabit. But it has never existed alone.

What Happens When Belonging Is Not Felt?

If Biological Belonging™ is original, an obvious question follows:

Why can someone feel so completely that they do not belong?

This is where we must distinguish an original condition from our developing experience of that condition.

 

Our developmental environments matter enormously.

How we are welcomed, protected, responded to, recognised, included, excluded, comforted, frightened or ignored can shape how we come to experience ourselves and our place in relationships and in the world.

A child repeatedly treated as unwanted may come to experience themselves as though there is no place for them.

A person repeatedly excluded may become vigilant for further exclusion.

Someone whose needs were repeatedly treated as excessive may learn to minimise themselves.

Someone whose presence repeatedly created conflict may learn that safety depends upon taking up as little relational or emotional space as possible.

These adaptations are real.

Their consequences are real.

But within IEF™, they are distinguished from the original condition upon which they became organised.

The adaptation is real. The injury is real. The consequences are real. But none of them retrospectively determines the original inclusion of the life to which they happened.

The environment can profoundly shape whether belonging becomes something we can experience, recognise and inhabit.

It does not become the original source of Biological Belonging™ itself.

 

The Environment Matters Without Becoming the Source

Saying that Biological Belonging™ is original does not make developmental relationships unimportant.

Quite the opposite.

Because a life already exists within life, the developmental question becomes:

What happens to that particular life within the conditions it encounters?

Developmental environments can differ enormously.

Some provide sufficient safety, responsiveness, protection, freedom and boundaries for a developing person to explore, express, differentiate and participate.

Others may be restrictive, intrusive, unpredictable, neglectful or unsafe. A child may increasingly organise around vigilance, compliance, withdrawal, suppression or protection.

And developmental difficulty does not arise only through deprivation or restriction.

Some environments may provide considerable attention, freedom or protection while offering insufficient boundary, containment or opportunity to encounter frustration and the separate reality of other people.

The developmental consequences may therefore move in different directions.

One person may learn to occupy less and less of their own participatory space.

Another may struggle to recognise where their participation meets the legitimate space of somebody else.

These differences matter within the wider architecture of IEF™, and are explored more fully through Innate Entitlement™, boundaries and the organisation of participation.

But for Biological Belonging™, the central point is simpler:

Different developmental environments can profoundly shape how a person experiences and participates in belonging without becoming the source of Biological Belonging™ itself.

The person who learns to make themselves small remains within life.

The person who struggles to recognise the limits of their own participatory space also remains within life.

The environment has shaped development.

It has not created or removed the original condition.

This distinction allows IEF™ to take developmental conditions seriously without making favourable developmental conditions the requirement for belonging.

 

Receiving™ Happens Within Belonging

This also changes how Biological Belonging™ relates to Receiving™.

Earlier in the development of IEF™, I understood Biological Belonging™ more sequentially: as though sufficiently reliable receiving gradually produced the experience from which belonging emerged.

The continuing constitutional audit of the Framework has led me to revise that position.

Receiving™ remains developmentally important.

We begin within receiving. Throughout life, we continue to receive through our bodies, relationships, environments and experiences.

But Receiving™ does not create Biological Belonging™.

Receiving happens within a life that is already within life.

The quality of what we receive can profoundly affect development.

It can shape whether the world feels safe or dangerous, whether relationships feel dependable or unpredictable, and whether our own needs and experiences become easier or harder to recognise and inhabit.

But the quality of receiving does not decide whether our life was originally included.

That distinction is now fundamental to the developing architecture of IEF™.

 

Being Within Life and Feeling Connected to Life

There is another distinction worth making.

Being within life and feeling connected to life are not necessarily the same experience.

Someone can be alive while feeling profoundly disconnected.

They may say:

I feel separate from everyone.

I feel like I am watching life rather than living it.

I don’t feel at home anywhere.

I don’t know where I fit.

I feel disconnected from myself.

IEF™ does not answer those experiences by simply saying:

But you belong.

That would risk overriding the person’s lived reality.

Instead, Biological Belonging™ offers another reference point alongside that reality:

The experience of disconnection is occurring within a life that has not ceased to be within life.

The feeling matters.

The disconnection matters.

And yet the feeling of being outside life and actually being outside life are not necessarily the same thing.

This distinction may become therapeutically important.

 

Therapy Cannot Give Someone Biological Belonging™

A therapist cannot confer Biological Belonging™ upon another person.

Nor can a relationship, achievement, diagnosis, social group or external authority finally certify that somebody has earned their place within life.

If Biological Belonging™ is original, therapy has a different task.

It may help a person explore what happened to their experience of belonging.

Where did they learn that belonging depended upon being useful, quiet, successful, pleasing, attractive, undemanding or needed?

Where did they learn that losing somebody meant losing their place?

Where did they learn that rejection meant something fundamental about whether their life mattered?

And what happens when those experiences can gradually be explored without treating them as the original measure of the person’s inclusion within life?

Therapy does not need to manufacture belonging.

It may instead support a person in increasingly recognising and inhabiting a life that was already theirs and already within life.

 

Being in Relationship With Being Alive

The Innate Entitlement Framework™ emerged from lived experience and sustained clinical practice, including an inquiry that has remained central throughout its development:

What does it mean to be in relationship with being alive?

Biological Belonging™ now helps clarify one part of that question.

Being in relationship with being alive is not identical to Biological Belonging™.

Biological Belonging™ is an original condition:

I am within life.

Our capacity to recognise, experience and consciously inhabit being alive develops.

Life is already occurring before we can think about it.

In that sense:

Life is lived before it is known.

Over time, the life already being lived can increasingly become something we recognise, experience and inhabit as our own.

That distinction will become increasingly important as the Framework moves from its original conditions towards the ways human beings organise and participate in their lives and relationships.

But Biological Belonging™ gives us the ground:

Before I know where I belong, before another person tells me that I belong, and before I can consciously experience belonging, my life is already occurring within life.

 

Biological Belonging™ in the Innate Entitlement Framework™

Biological Belonging™ therefore describes something both simple and far-reaching:

The original inclusion of a particular life within life.

It does not promise that we will always feel that we belong.

It does not protect us from rejection, abandonment, migration, loneliness or exclusion.

It does not mean we belong in every relationship or every place.

And it does not erase the profound developmental importance of being welcomed, protected, recognised, responded to and appropriately bounded by other people.

Instead, it gives those experiences a different foundation.

A relationship can affect how I experience belonging without becoming the original source of my belonging.

A place can become home without becoming the source of my place within life.

Another person can recognise me without creating my original inclusion.

A boundary can affect how I participate without determining whether my life belongs within life.

And rejection can wound me without retrospectively determining whether there was ever a place for my life.

The distinction can be held very simply:

My life is mine to inhabit.
My life is already within life.

Perhaps Biological Belonging™ begins there.

Not with being granted a place.

But with recognising that, while we are alive, we are already here.

 

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Janaína Mahé is a psychotherapist, clinical supervisor, mindfulness teacher and clinical hypnotherapist, and the developer of the Innate Entitlement Framework™.

The Framework emerged from lived experience and sustained clinical practice, and has continued to develop through personal inquiry, interdisciplinary study, conceptual analysis and an ongoing examination of how human beings experience legitimacy, belonging, boundaries, participation and relationship with being alive.

IEF™ brings these strands together in an evolving psychological framework concerned with how a life that is already alive, already particular and already within life comes to recognise, organise and increasingly inhabit its participation in being alive.

 

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