- When I work with my clients — whether they come to therapy for anxiety, depression, stress, low self-esteem, relationship issues, or simply wanting to reconnect with themselves — there is one deep truth I always return to: the most important relationship you will ever have is the relationship you have with yourself.
The way you relate to yourself will always reflect in how you relate to others. We can only give to others what we already give to ourselves.
If we give to others what we do not offer to ourselves, we eventually feel resentment — because we end up giving from emptiness, hoping to get something in return.
When you cultivate self-love and self-esteem, you no longer expect to be filled up by others. Instead, you feel whole and abundant within yourself.
This makes your relationships lighter, freer, and more accepting. You begin to see that others can only give what is available to them — and you learn to receive it without expectations, without carrying heavy emotional baggage.
When we stop expecting and start appreciating, life opens up in a beautiful, gentle way.
💛 How are you nurturing your relationship with yourself today?
Sometimes, clients ask me, “But how do I have a relationship with myself? What does it mean to have self-esteem?”
My answer is this: when you make decisions, do you consider your own needs? Do you think of yourself as someone important in your life?
Do you hold yourself in high esteem — in a way that means you respect yourself, speak your truth, answer for yourself, and have your own back?
Think about the relationship you have with your best friend. How good of a friend are you to them? Are you like this with yourself?
The way you treat yourself deeply reflects on how you feel day to day — how you move through the world, how you hold your energy, and how you experience your own life.
Do you check in to acknowledge your needs? Do you notice if you are hydrated, if your food nourishes you, if it supports your energy or drains it?
When you feel tired, do you allow yourself to rest — or do you keep pushing through?
Do you say “yes” when you want to say “no”? Remember, every time you say “yes” when you want to say “no,” you are saying “no” to yourself.
Do you look in the mirror and appreciate the simple miracle that you woke up alive today?
Do you understand that your life itself is a miracle? Think about how fragile we are — all the illnesses that can take us, the unpredictable nature of life. One day, we will all be gone.
Do you appreciate that you are still here, alive, among all the pain and all the challenges of the world?
Do you allow yourself to feel the little pleasures, the simple joys — the sunset and sunrise, the breeze on your face, the cold water, the sea, the waterfalls?
You are part of all this. You belong to this miracle.
In my work as a therapist and mindfulness teacher, I support clients in building this loving, present relationship with themselves. This work is at the heart of emotional healing, self-esteem growth, and learning to live with more freedom and presence.
If you feel called to explore this relationship with yourself more deeply, I invite you to reach out. Together, we can gently reconnect you to yourself and help you build a foundation of self-love and presence that supports every other relationship in your life.